5 EASY WAYS TO GET IT UNDER CONTROL.
1. DON’T PUT OFF “THE TALK”
From the beginning, communicate with your parents and determine the number of guests that your budget allows. Traditionally, each family get half of the desired total; that translates into four lists—one each for the bride, the groom, the bride’s parents, and the groom’s parents. Focus on numbers first to avoid painful cuts later.
2. DIVIDE AND CONQUER
Sort possible guests into categories, and then eliminate by groups. Always be sure to make across-the-board, clear-cut distinctions however. For example, you might decide to invite all of your aunts and uncles but forego cousins and other relatives. Just make sure to cut each category equally to avoid any hurt feelings.
3. SEPARATE WORK AND PLAY
It is acceptable to leave out all of your office associates—or most of them. If just family and close friends are attending your wedding, your coworkers should understand that you had to make the cut-off. If you do end up inviting a few colleagues include those who are also among your closest friends.
4. AVOID PAYBACK
This is not the time for your parents to insist on reciprocity for weddings they’ve attended over the years. It's your party! Of course, listen to your parents’ suggestions and ideas for the guest list, but know that this is a decision that you and your fiancé should make, and your list of invitees takes priority.
5. FAR-AWAY PALS
If you think having to travel a great distance will prevent some people on your list from making it to your wedding, call them to find out if that is the case. While you might still want to send invitations to your closest long-distance friends and family, you can send announcements after the wedding to the others.
By Patricia Canole
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